Thursday, June 9, 2011

HIV's not a special need? REALLLY?

In the country we're adopting from, the bill preventing children without special needs from being adopted (which was passed a few weeks ago) was signed into law yesterday.

As of now, HIV is not considered a special need.

There's a small chance that we might be able to adopt the girls before the law is fully implemented, so I'm trying not to lose all hope yet... but wow.

Can someone please tell me how missing a foot or an ear can allow a child to be adopted, but having a disease that will ultimately result in death if untreated... does not?

My happiness and joy is with all the families whose child's needs are on the list of needs, but damn.


  1. Oh, Katrina! My heart is breaking. Praying you can still adopt your sweet girls. ~Amiee

  2. I'm right there with you this morning, completely in tears and beside myself that our boy's condition (which will also prove fatal) doesn't make the cut.

    Hoping and PRAYING that the list is amended!

  3. I must have misunderstood the list. There were two HIV things listed on there but had somethings after them that I didn't understand what they meant. I am so sorry you have been given yet another hurdle to try and overcome. I hope you are able to find some sort of peace and comfort today in this crazy mixed up world. HUG to you.

  4. Katrina, where can I go to read about the new law and what conditions are on there? Since I am not in the process of adopting yet, I am not kept up to date.


  5. What a frustrating hurdle!

    I'm praying that you can get far enough along in the process to be grandfathered in before the new law is fully implemented.

  6. At this point it looks like the list mirrors the one that made it so they could waive the 1-year time on the in-country adoption list, and the list is not based on the severity of the needs, but rather the likelihood that the children will get adopted and/or fostered in-country. From what I can tell anything that makes the children look different and makes people automatically know they have a special need by just seeing them makes it almost impossible they'll ever get adopted in-country, while HIV+ kids are getting adopted and fostered in-country much more frequently now.

    Of course, I'm still praying that the list will get amended. There are so many kids in need, and no way there are enough families in-country willing and able to adopt them, and any who are available for international adoption have already been waiting at least a year! I'm so sad today, but I'm still praying that Heavenly Father will make a way for you to go get your girls (and for others to be able to go get their little ones, as well).

  7. A yr ago we adopted our 5 yr old HIV+ daughter from Ukraine. Since arriving home, she has absolutely THRIVED! Looking back at pics it is hard to believe this is the same child. It is remarkable what proper medication, a healthy diet, and lots of love can do! Our little one now has a bright future but I will forever be haunted by all those left behind. I pray this "new law" will not impact your adoption. If you have any questions regarding adopting from Ukraine and/or the challenges of raising an HIV+ child please feel free to contact me at I would love to help. Paula

  8. I prayed this morning for your family and all of the other children affected by this. It is so frustrating but there just must be a light at the end of the tunnel!


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